A few years ago, I was in a place where I couldn’t get two positive thoughts together.
- I was addicted to negative thinking
- I was addicted to replaying events in my mind.
- I was addicted to overthinking
- I was addicted to creating stories and imagining people’s reactions to me, to situations, to interactions.
You might think it is a bit harsh to say I was an addict, but it was truly a habitual mindset that I had become accustomed to. These behaviors had formed without me even realizing. I was unaware of the pattern that formed in my life.
I felt drained and mentally tired, and I was tired feeling tired, and I started to realize that this way of thinking wasn’t serving me anymore. It was not adding any joy and fulfillment to my life and I knew I needed to change. . .but how??
I was on my own personal development journey learning about leadership, mindset, and starting the process of becoming the coach I am now, and this is where I started to question my thoughts.
Over time, I learned how to shift this stinking thinking and thrive not just survive. Here is what I learned. . .
This is the most powerful place to start to shift mindset. Your brain cannot have a positive and negative thought at the same time. So, start to think of one thing to be grateful for, and then another, and another. Keep going and you will sense a shift start to happen. Sit in that state of gratitude… .it’s powerful.
- Awareness. Notice your thoughts. Are they serving you or are they draining and depleting? Becoming observant of your thoughts and where they are coming from is critical to shift mindset. Observe the thoughts and stories that wanted to creep in, and then intentionally changed the story or dismissed them.
- You are in control. You have the power to choose what to think. Just knowing that I had the power to choose my thoughts, and I didn’t have to go with or believe whatever came into my mind was totally freeing. Over time I learned to harness that power and choose what thoughts served me and which ones needed to go. We all have this power.
- It’s a Journey. The shift didn’t happen overnight. And yes, some of those old patterns still want to creep in from time to time. But now I have to tools to shift that mindset much faster. This journey is continuous as we face new situations, challenges, circumstance and changes. That’s why it’s so important to be conscious of the mind chatter and thoughts and have the tools to create that mind shift.
It takes effort to retrain our way of thinking, but it is so worth it, and if this is something that resonates with you, I just want to encourage you that it is all possible, one step at a time. It all starts with awareness.
One of the most fulfilling aspects of my journey is now working with others to reframe thought patterns and mindsets. This is where the transformation begins, and more opportunities appear.
Who is ready for a mindset shift? Who is ready to thrive and see more possibilities?
Executive Coach and Personal Development Trainer.