WHEN WILL THIS FOG LIFT?
Ever feel tired all the time, like tired at the end of a day and even tired when you wake up on morning? The days are long, the emails are endless, the “to do” list increase by the minute, and when task is done there are still five or ten more that are all high priority. The obligations and responsibilities at home and on the job are at an all time high and there is no end is sight. You feel like you are going through the motions, and in a perpetual fog.
This was my life for a long time. I had one adrenal burn out after the other. And by the time I had reached the third one, my homeopath said I needed to make some choices in my life because if this happened again, she couldn’t say how my body would be able to cope or recover.
It was time to face reality. I had let life control me and I needed to create some boundaries and make some choices so that I took back control. I believe that in a lot of cases, we think we don’t have choices. We think that this is the hand we have been dealt, and we have to make the most of it. I am not in anyway downplaying circumstances or situations that we face that are out of our control. What I am saying is that we need to do some examination of our lives and see where we may need to put some boundaries in place and where a few simple choices can have a significant impact on our lives over time.
In the Compound Effect by Darren Hardy, he notes that the principle of reaping huge rewards from a series of small, seemly inconsequential, smart
choices. What happens in a lot of cases is we want to go from zero to a hundred in one shot, and that is just setting us up for failure. Small consistent choices make a huge difference over time.
I realized that I was spending too many hours at work, so I had to find a strategy to get my life back. I decided I needed to have an end of day cut off time, and chose 5:30 p.m. This also meant reducing distractions during the day so that I could still accomplish the tasks necessary. I decided that I would reduce the number of times I checked emails, to keep me focused on the tasks for the day. If something urgent arose or something else became more of a priority, I’d deal with it, but I had to implement a guideline, and try to stick with it. The choice to manage my time in this way and put this boundary in place to reduce the number of hours in the office I was better able to manage responsibilities at home and factor in tasks that fueled me. I was able to focus on my personal growth and build myself and my business.
I’ve seen this approach of making a few small changes help many clients of mine. One client has seen phenomenal results with reduced stress levels and less frustration. He made three changes. He listened to audio books to and from work and incorporated them into evening relaxation, he attended toastmasters once a week and started skipping once a day as part of his exercise routine. He is growing and learning from listening to the audio books, his confidence was boosted by the toastmaster club and he is developing his speaking
skills and his stress reduced and health improving from the daily skipping.
What aspects do you need to examine and start setting some boundaries and making some choices that best serve you? When you are taking care of your needs, you are better able to help others, to be more productive at work, to lift that fog and finally see things with some clarity.
If your thinking, my day is already jam packed and now you are talking about adding more things rather than taking away, are you crazy?
I hear you, I do! But what I am suggesting is that you need to make adjustments that fuel and energize you. That fog is because you are drained and depleted. Create moments to rest and refuel, the alternative is much more costly. Perpetual adrenal fatigue and stress in general that can lead to so many non-communicable diseases like heart disease, high cholesterol with possibility of stroke, diabetes to name a few. Your body is telling you what it needs, it need fuel and you know what energizes and refuels you.
Choose your best life, design it and then stick to it. If you want to ensure that you stick to it, find and accountability partner, or hire a coach or a mentor. Do what it takes to make your life better. The choice is in your hands, it’s up to you. Take one small step and stick to it.
▪ Rachel Thomas,
Executive Coach and Personal Development Trainer.